Aaron in Azerbaijan

Just another blog about Azerbaijan.

What Does Masculinity Mean Here?

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I’m still trying to figure it out.  Those long bus rides, where it’s too bumpy to read, and too bumpy and loud to sleep, provide a lot of time to think about such things.  Just from observing young men around here, the ideal of manhood strikes a much different tone.  The desired perception appears to be of a tough-guy persona accented with very public connections to male friends.  Many of the public displays of masculinity are those which you would see in any sort of tough-guy depiction in America.  You wear black.  Black jackets, black jeans, black shoes, black hat, black everything.  Wearing colorful clothing, something like orange or red or light blue or maybe even green doesn’t really fit in here.  I stand out particularly because I wear colored shirts and light-blue jeans.  Beyond your black, there are any number of features of your persona to try to emphasize.  You want to be a fast-car driving, school-skipping, cellphone-blasting, porn-watching, cigarette-smoking, vodka-drinking badass.  If you’re really good, you also focus on arm-wrestling, boxing, and wrestling as true “manly” sports.  All others fall to the ‘non-masculine’ category.  See how that all comes together?

To be sure, these are not features of masculinity we are stranger to in the West.  Any and all of those have been strong characteristics of manhood.  There is one thing missing, though, that I think really colors how alien I find this conception:  There is no feature that emphasizes romance.  There is never any public display of interest in women (since the idea of homosexuality doesn’t really even exist here, we’ll stick with the hetero version).  Whereas the most stereotypically masculine man in America might find a space for being kind to women, attempting to flirt, showing an interest in what a woman might want, or brandishing a respectable brand of chivalry, that sort of thing can’t happen here.  Instead, the only expression they have is staring.  Every man will stare at a moderately attractive woman.  Sure, staring happens everywhere, but not like it does here.  It’s almost oppressive the type of staring that happens here.  Unfortunately, that’s as far as it goes.  It almost seems that their ideas of masculinity essentially froze at a pre-teen stage.

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Written by Aaron

March 7, 2010 at 4:45 pm

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  1. […] I think there are also a few other factors at work here.  The first is that a lot of these men don’t really have anything else to do.  They aren’t necessarily real go-getters.  I’ve always got something to do because I have a book to read or a blog post to write.  But for the men around here, if they aren’t working, or their job is driving, then why not have a cigarette?  There’s also the factor of cost.  Cigarettes are cheap around here.  Just under a dollar for a pack of the mid-level smokes.  And they don’t come with surgeon general warnings.  I think if I was able to introduce a cigarette tax here, I would probably consider my service complete at that point.  The other main factor is really just something you’ll see anywhere: it’s “cool” to smoke.  That just contributes to their masculinity. […]


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